You seem to be struggling to grasp even the simplest of Christian concepts
What's happening here is that YOU don't know what you're talking about, but you THINK you do. This feeling of being "right" is so strong in you that when I tell you what is actually going on, you actually think I'm the one who doesn't get it.
This would be humorous if it weren't so sad.
you're focusing only on the person's intent in their being thankful rather than the greater implications of what they are thankful for
I'm not "focusing on" anything.
I'm merely pointing out that a person can be thankful without ever implying anything.
You're reading an implication into what they are saying, but that implication isn't necessary. You just don't seem to get that, though.
i.e. there was a wreck, which God supposedly caused
Except that's not what the person is saying at all.
If you are walking down the street and a car you don't notice is about to hit you and I shove you out of the way and save you from being hit by the car, you might decide to thank me for doing that.
You thanking me in no way means you thought I somehow "caused" the car to come at you and nearly hit you. It just means you were thankful I saved you from being hit.
In the same way, thanking God for keeping you from a tragedy doesn't mean you think God "caused" the tragedy - you're just thankful he saved you from it.
because it was apparently in "God's plan" for person A, B, and C to get in a wreck while person D does not.
You do know things don't always operate only in absolutes, right? Because you're looking at this as an absolute, and you can't understand that it's not one.
You have no idea why God allows things to happen, and neither do I, but there is also a difference between allowing something to happen and causing something to happen. I'm guessing you can't grasp that distinction either.
If you can't grasp that then there's no point in discussing anything further because you'd obviously be way out of your depth, especially since it sounds like you already are.
You can't even understand that God doesn't have to operate in absolutes or the basic difference between permission and causation, yet you think you can tell me I'm "way out of your depth"?
You just make up silly generalizations that you think help your position, but when you have nothing credible to back it up, you look foolish to anyone who knows what they're talking about.
I'm just trying to explain to you that the things you spouted weren't true. You'd have been aware of that with a simple search or two, which would have prevented you from looking foolish for posting ideas that have been debunked for years.
You claim to back up your claims with data, and yet when I challenged what you said, you didn't bring up a single piece of data. All you did was show that you think only in absolutes and can't understand the difference between permission and causation.
If you can't grasp those simple concepts, there is no point in discussing this with you.