I think what you're failing to recognize that the 90% that do it the "right way" aren't high profile players. Jeter obviously got around. There was none of this:
In NY, where there's someone always watching you, he was never a subject of controversy. Except for his non-support of A-Rod. George once said he was "out too much". Then they made a commercial about it. He showed up, did he job, said the right things all under the watchful eye of NY. Truthfully, if he had done the same thing in KC, no one would know. Because the one reporter in KC can't cover everyone.