Posted by moy23 on 7/1/2014 12:14:00 PM (view original):
Posted by MikeT23 on 7/1/2014 11:54:00 AM (view original):
Nope.
Do you supply discipline at home while working 70 hours per week? I'll do the math for you. 8-8(for 60 hours). I assume there's some transit time. I'll give you an hour total. 8-9. Time to get ready for work(which is certainly not spent with children. I can get ready in half an hour. 7:30 AM - 9 PM. I assume your small children have a reasonable bed time. At best, you get to tuck them in. So where is the discipline at home?
M, Tu, F.... My wife leaves for work at 4:30 in the morning and picks them up from daycare at 5pm. I get up with the kids at 6:30a and drop them off by 8a at the latest. W my wife stays home with them all day. I stay home with them 2 Thursdays a month and my retired mother in law does the other 2 Thursdays. I don't golf or go to bars anymore so that I can spend time with my family on the weekends. So other than 27 hours a week (M, Tu, F from 8 to 5p) they are at home.
Another exanple... Both my parents worked as well. My mother worked night shifts from 7p-7a as a nurse.... My dad at a company doing the 9-5 thing. A parent was always home with the kids... although it was tough on their relationship.
If you want to make it work you can.... But its not easy.
So 43% of the time, in their "active" hours, some stranger is raising your kids. I guess it could be worse.
Honestly, I'm just giving you **** over your "POOR PEOPLE SMOKE!!! THEY'LL ALWAYS BE POOR IF THEY CAN'T MAKE BETTER DECISIONS!!!" stance. I'm no expert on child rearing. I don't have kids and always had a reason to not have them.
Too poor(barely making ends meet)
Not right woman(my parents divorced so I wanted to 100% sure)
"Me" period(selfish)
Too old(nobody wants their dad mistaken for good ol' grandpa)
That said, I think one of the problems we have with children is the lack of the "traditional" family. Ward goes to work, June stays home and raises the kids. Some of it's necessity(both parents have to work), some of it is greed(both parents chose to work). Nonetheless, the formative years are largely in the hands of a hired hand, a sibling or a grandparent. NONE of those are ideal, IMO. If a parent wants to teach his/her child his/her values, he/she has to be available to do it.
Anyway, if your daughter grows up to be a stripper with daddy issues, you'll wish you spent less time "making money" and more time with the daughter.