I thought I killed the "extreme" example a couple of days ago when I said you didn't understand it's use.
It's as if you and you boyfriend believe that a guy at the top 1% of his profession, in the world, just isn't very good at it. Every batter has pitches they can't handle. On those pitches, adjust the swing. Hell, if Alfonso Soriano would stop swinging at 59 ft pitches that are 6 inches outside, we'd be discussing his HOF credentials.