you can only gauge being ahead or behind from scholarship messages. ignore all other messages, except for the following purpose: from a phone call (or coach call, well, technically letters too, but those are more expensive and their meaning, much less well known) - you can tell if you can
1) recruit a player right away
2) recruit a player after he drops down (or you can pull him down)
3) never recruit a player
the phone call response you have is indicative of scenario #1, and there is nothing else you should try to read from it.