im serious on the tell me exactly part... i can't speculate what others told you or what you think others told you, but if you tell me what you did, i absolutely can explain what you are seeing. there isn't always 1 option, but im happy to take the time to lay out all possibilities clearly.
i suspect if you re-read what i posted to you first, you will find it was not at all condescending or whatever you want to label my comments as - and more importantly, that your actions do not coincide with my comments. if you followed the 10 SV guidelines, ill refer you back to that same post. here it is, for your convenience. \
etta - to answer your original question, you know a player is pulled down when they will accept HVs or CVs. generally, this coincides with them considering you alone. the 10SV figure people throw around is misleading for a coach in your position, i think that is the problem. in d3 it takes slightly less than d2. in d2, for A+ schools, which is a normal situation for the posters here - 10SVs is usually sufficient to pull a player down. in d2, with lower prestige, this is rarely the case (especially outside the A range altogether). i have found 12-15 is usually the minimum for lower prestige schools, but i've also never coached C/D prestige d2 schools, so it could even be higher for those schools. my guess is its as simple as you need more SVs than the guidelines suggest, i think the guidelines here are generally misleading for lower prestige schools... in general i believe forum responses are written for consistent NT coaches with solid programs, trying to master the details or learn new strategies, to take it to the next level. not saying thats good or bad - just keep that in mind when reading, not all advice here is appropriate for a new coach, and rarely is it labelled as such.
lets skip the part where things descend into chaos for a page and why don't you tell me *exactly* what you are seeing, that doesn't line up with what you heard, and ill explain it to you? like i said, its very, very possible what you read what not appropriate for the situation you were in. its also possible the other person was wrong, or generalizing, or something else in which you still could have been doing exactly what someone else suggested. im not saying you did anything wrong, based on the information you were given. feel free to provide said information along with your actions and i can comment on both together. or, we can skip the BS and just get to what you actually did, and what you thought would happen, and what actually happened, and i can clarify.