tec asked a question earlier that I found interesting(and I don't think anyone addressed it). It was the "specific thought process" one.
So I tried(rather unsuccessfully). I know there was a time when girls were "icky". I assume, somewhat, that all boys go through that stage where we just want nothing to do with girls. Back in my day, they played with dolls, fake ovens, had tea parties, played dress-up, etc, etc. That's what made them different as sex organs just weren't in play at that age. However, within a few years, a boy's mind wandered and girls became interesting. Just the natural order of things.
I wonder, if the gender-neutral way to play(girls playing with trucks or tee-ball or whatever) of today would change things? Would the "natural order of things" come faster/be different? For me, there was no specific thought process. There was never a "Wonder what it would be like to kiss Tom?" moment. Tom and I were too busy drawing up a play in the dirt. How much different would it have been if Jane were in the huddle instead of Tom?
Anyway, I don't know if that has anything to do with biz's ramblings. I guess I'm just saying I never made a conscious choice. It was pretty much a given that I'd date girls. Nature/nurture argument, I suppose.