Posted by tecwrg on 6/19/2013 5:14:00 PM (view original):"Just like you can't call a pie made of blueberries an apple pie, you cannot call a legal SS union a marriage. Because it's not."
Posted by burnsy483 on 6/19/2013 4:01:00 PM (view original):First, let's not lose sight of the fact that I'm NOT denying SS partners from making a lasting, legally formalized and recognized bond with each other. Civil union. I'm all for it. AND I'm all for changes in the laws that ensure that SS couples in a civil union have all the exact same legal rights as OS couples have in a traditional marriage.
Posted by tecwrg on 6/19/2013 3:18:00 PM (view original):OK, so let's say there isn't one.
Posted by burnsy483 on 6/19/2013 2:18:00 PM (view original):Not really, other than one has always been generally accepted and embraced by social norms while the other has not.
Posted by tecwrg on 6/19/2013 2:15:00 PM (view original):Not what I mean. Take the marriage out of it for now. Is there a significant difference between a loving, healthy heterosexual relationship and a loving, healthy homosexual relationship? Aside from the fact that one is homosexual and the other is heterosexual?
Posted by burnsy483 on 6/19/2013 1:45:00 PM (view original):OK. I assume you are talking about a legally formalized and recognized relationship. Correct me if I'm wrong.
Can't believe I'm posting in here again.
Directed towards tec. Aside from the obvious, do you see a significant difference between a loving relationship between 2 people of the opposite sex and 2 people of the same sex?
The only difference I see is that one (opposite sex) would be a traditional marriage, and the other (same sex) would be a civil union. Similar things, different connotations.
Why do people get married? They want to make a commitment to each other, that they'll spend the rest of their lives together. That they'll always love them and be there for them, etc, etc, etc.
Unless we're missing something - There isn't a difference in how homosexual relationships work. So the SOLE reason to prevent SSM is because they are members of the same-sex. And I suppose that myself and BL and others don't really see that as a good enough reason. They're people. Two people of the same sex who are in love with each other want to make a commitment to each other through marriage that they'll always be there for each other, and will commit to each other to be the best possible couple they can be. I don't see how it's significantly different than 2 people of the opposite sex.
You do. Changing the definition to include same-sex couples is a major step that changes what marriage is for you. I do understand that it's a change to the classic definition, but I don't see that in itself as a legitimate reason. I'd like to think I get both sides of any argument. I'm still trying to understand yours. Values and tradition...ok. But I think we like to celebrate marriage as people showing their commitment to each other for the rest of their lives, and that's the important part of marriage. The man-woman thing seems less important.
I guess I'm asking you to enlighten me a little bit more. I went back about 8 pages to see if I missed anything new in your argument and didn't see anything. I'm missing something here. What it is about marriage that makes the man-woman part of it so important?
It's a word. Marriage. It has a connotation that is fundamental since the beginning of human culture and civilization, and has been a constant attribute throughout human history (despite the smokescreen that bad_luck seems to keep trying to throw into the mix with IRM). That connotation is that marriage is between a man and a woman.
Just like you can't call a pie made of blueberries an apple pie, you cannot call a legal SS union a marriage. Because it's not.
You're not going to find anything new in my argument since page 1 of this thread, because my argument has been consistent since the beginning.
Your argument is simply that you cannot change the definition because it's not the definition. Because it's always been that way.
If there was a movement to change blueberry pies to be called apple pies, as dumb as that sounds, I'm confident you wouldn't be too upset about it. So there's something about marriage, specifically, that's important to you. What is it?