I'm checking out of the whole gay marriage and gay parenting conversation because I'm tired of spinning in circles with the dumbasses who won't let the conversation go.
Instead, I'll ask a loosely related question which is somewhat being touched upon now in this thread: when is somebody considered homosexual?
The background: my son has a classmate who he's been good friends with since first grade, so almost eight years now. The friend (we'll call him "B") fits all the classic stereotypes of homosexuality . . . he doesn't like sports (other than gymnastics), he's into performing in theater groups (musicals, singing dancing, etc.), he's very much into going to NYC to see Broadway shows, etc. He's overly sensitive to, well, just about everything. His preferred circle of friends seems to be "hanging with the girls", though he does have some male friends that he does associate with (my son being one of them).
Before anybody jumps all over me for using stereotypes, I'll just say this: I went to school with a handful of kids who showed many of the same "classic stereotypes" as B . . . they now are all adult homosexual men.
B is 13, hasn't quite reached puberty yet, but it's pretty clear where his sexuality is oriented. I'm not sure if he realizes it yet. I'm not sure if my son realizes this about his friend. But my wife and I have recognized his sexuality as long ago as nearly four years ago when B was nine. His dad has made comments to me in the past, when we were talking about my sons, that after two daughters he was excited when B was born so that he would have a son that he could do "father/son" things with like I do with my boys, "But instead, I got B". And my wife has been told that B's parents have both discussed B's sexuality among themselves, have fully accepted it, and have even talked to B's two older sisters and informed them that B was gay.
So my question is: would one refer to B as "gay", or would one refer to B as "going to be gay", since I don't think B has recognized or acknowledged it himself.
7/2/2013 12:39 PM (edited)