I think everyone could make a more informed opinion if we had...
recruits in question (how good are they? what are the schools needs? etc)
schools (and are the guy's schools 1000 miles apart)
A proper investigation can't be done if you don't have all the evidence. Personally, I think your friend is being a crybaby. If he wants to have a conversation about that, then fine, but the ultimate F-U in a situation like that is to win the recruit(s). Part of what's going on here is arguably money mismanagement on myfriend's end too...if you think/assume you've got the guy just because he's only considering you at any point and you lose out on him...that's your fault. Noble men fight.