I'm not sure it was a disagreement about how to load the dishwasher as it was about when to run the dishwasher. She ran it with something like 3 plates, 2 glasses, a bowl and a handful of utensils. Basically 10% full. We've had the same discussion about the dryer when I opened it and there was a pair of socks, compression shorts and a pair of underwear that had been dried.