That's a fair viewpoint but, again, they're doing dumb ****. That's a behavior that can't be controlled.
I'd rather wander around and find a guy you're not willing to fight for than fight you for him. I'll know how many AP you can use but, due to experience, you'll know if I have preferences on my side(I'd try to find out but I don't really know the percentages needed for paint/perimeter, strong defense, etc, etc) and how many HV I could offer. IOW, I'd avoid you because I simply think you have advantages.
So, you've got a guy who'd avoid you and a guy who doesn't know he should(so maybe you bail). There's just not a good scenario for seasoned vet vs n00b in recruiting.