""Anyway, so I have to vent and I was wondering what anyone else thought about this because in my opinion, the boosters should be begging me to take an extension""
Car, i think this is where you are off base. I don't believe the boosters as they exist in this game look at the prior coaches success/failure when they decide how they feel about you. While you may have done better than the coaches before you, you are in the ACC with the benefit of their conference prestige and the extra recruiting cash that goes along with it. In 5 years, you have 0 winning seasons. The 1 time you made the NT, you did it with a 14-13 record and a 4-12 conference record, both of which get you the NIT in real life.
You're in no danger of getting fired, but in no way should anyone be begging you to extend your deal. You've done a good job, but not an amazing one, and it's not unrealistic for the boosters to wonder if you can get the team over the hump. Good luck going forward, I'm sure it ain't easy recruiting against Duke and Carolina every year.