my wife has no problem with HD. i really am as lucky as you can get, my wife is simply amazing. the only thing shes got is a well practiced groan, when i respond to "want to go to dinner tonight?" with this sheepish look.... "groan........ its recruiting day, isnt it?". i think it really helped, that i started playing HD a little over 5 years ago, about a year before we met. we started as friends, and if she wanted to hang out during recruiting, i was like, im busy. but, im only busy for like, 25% of the time after 8:00 pm, so if you want to hang out i can... as long as its near a computer, and ill have to do some stuff every couple hours. it was better than not seeing me, so she was happy to go along with it.
actually the only time she really gets ****** is at 5:00 when my alarm clock is going off and i am not waking up. i sleep like a corpse, and hit the snooze button without ever gaining consciousness. so that ****** her off sometimes, but its really the getting woken up repeatedly at 5 am part, not the basketball part.
but outside of that, she actually helps me, reminds me to "check my basketball game" before 2:00 at times, and stuff like that. when i hurt my wrist, she gave 50 campus visits for me :) she even wants to read forum posts sometimes, to see what we are talking about, and she fairly regularly asks if anyone said anything about me, she likes to read it. its like, she is actually proud her husband is successful in this fake fantasy world. she has told her parents and everything. strange example, but nothing captures it better - seriously - she is so good about it, that a few times she has come on to me when it was shortly before i had to plan for a NT game, and i had the nerve to say well, its got to be quick, its the national tournament. and she gets this serious look, "oh!", and is totally on board. not offended or slighted or anything, its pretty amazing. makes me wonder if i took the fantasy too far and am just living in a fantasy world in my head. she really is as good as it gets.
moral of the story? just make it clear that HD comes first, and if she still wants to be with you, she's a keeper :) no really... there is a moral in it for the young single guys out there. opposites attract, but often not for long. i found all the girls i was chasing in high school or young in college were either crazy, or just plain totally wrong for me. on the other hand, there were some really sweet high quality girls who i shot down without giving them a chance, even if i already liked them quite a bit as a friend - whom in retrospect, were much, MUCH higher quality girls. i realized around age 20, that using instant attraction as a gauge of if you should give a girl a shot, was really not the way to go. everyone is different, but i just had that instant attraction towards the wrong kind of girls, for me. with my current wife, that spark wasnt there at first, but she seemed like a nice enough girl, laid back and smart, and a good person overall. so i decided, only because of my conscious recognition of the situation when i was ~20, to spend some time with her and get to know her better. fast forward 4 years, and im married to an incredibly sweet, smart, loving, adorable and supportive wife, who happens to be an amazing mother, too (well, i expected that before we got married). and i am very very happy with her, but if i met her at age 18, i wouldnt have given her the time of day. so just something for you young single guys to think about. im not really talking about a girl's physical attractiveness either, i think my wife is quite attractive, and so were plenty of the sweet girls i shot down in my youth. it was just a matter of having that spark or not, and i think its important to try to think about it rationally instead of going with your gut. just because god gave man a brain and a *****, but only enough blood for one at a time, it doesn't mean you cant use the brain when you have the blood for it :)