I can defer but, more often than not, I end up being in the front. Because of the game aspect, I'd try to sit back and be a good worker. However, at some point, I'd see something stupid. Instead of going off, I'd clam up and seem sullen/moody then get voted off because no one knows what I'm thinking. At least that's how I think it would go.
Only people I've met know my exact location. It's part of my mojo.
I don't have a favorite word. But I'll hear one and say "Have I ever used that in conversation?" and try to work it in somewhere.
It's a more feminate spelling.
Zero. But I don't find words offensive.