I'm just gonna drop three cents and leave:
- I've played in what I consider my main world for a long time and there are basically no rules. Things happen now and then which aren't really to my liking, and occasionally the chat blows up when someone goes too far offside. I've gotten used to it and accepted it. For awhile, I also played in another world which had stringent rules, and because of that I learned to play in the style that world demanded. Best part was, I learned things which I was able to take back to my main world which made me better.
- My main takeaway is always that no matter what kind of world you prefer, you should play in a world where the owners are in agreement of how they want things run and what the rules should be. Play with like minded owners or you will get carping, drama, and hard feelings.
- One last thing, if you run a league with hard rules, be prepared to enforce them and to have some - even if they agreed to the rules - try to object or ask for leeway. Human nature, it happens.