none of these choices are my best answer. I generally try to avoid all battles if and when possible. But that means I look for other similar players to those I could battle for and likely win. If I can't find those, then I start looking for who is weak and can be taken. I don't really even look at what team it is at first, so if/when it turns out to be a conference mate, que sera sera. I just did this to chapelhillne 2 seasons ago in my first season in the Ivy league in Phelan. I did talk to him via sitemail after recruiting ended to let him know my logic (in that case I had targets considering only me for my spots, but still had a large bank and searched for something better than what I had already, and found a nice PF that turned out to be considering chapel. After evaluating the battle I decided I could probably win, but only by coming in late, so I gave it a shot and took the player).
So I suppose the "I try to avoid it option" is the best answer for me, but like I said, only because my first option is to avoid all battles if possible. If I decide I have to battle I don't care if its with a conference mate or not.