Posted by topdogggbm on 9/29/2019 10:22:00 AM (view original):
Here's a topic that will surely spark things back up..... athletes as role models.
At one point in my life, I used to say that my favorite athletes in sports, were Barry Bonds, Allen Iverson, Mike Tyson, and Michael Vick. Now before some of you stone me for this, hear me out.... none of those people are role model citizens. But at the time of their peaks, I was an adult (except for Tyson. But keep reading). So I never looked up to them as great people. I just loved their performance on the field/court. It had nothing at all to do with what kind of human being they were. If those athletes were on my television, I would watch with amazement. If they were in my home, sure, it's a totally different standard. Me personally, I'm able to separate the two obviously. For me, sports is entertainment. And i don't wanna grow up to be just like these guys. Their talent can not be discredited. But neither can their downfalls in their personal lives.
So my question... what are some of your thoughts about athletes as role models? As a parent, how do you feel about your childrens interest in athletes like this? Where is a line drawn for you? Do you even have a line or do you have an issue with EVERY athlete that isn't perfect in life?
i agree completely - i am fine with athletes not being great people. they aren't being paid to be great people. frankly, neither are most people. in the interest of being a successful species, i think it is really important we are able to distinguish between competence and decency, and in general put the most competent people for the job, in important jobs (sports counts because it is important to a lot of people).
i hate the entire culture to force people out of their jobs, and companies out of their markets, based on them being less-that-stellar individuals. if someone needs to be sent to prison, send them to prison (i guess), but if we start saying 'you can't be an ******* or have done something really dumb once and hold a role with any visibility', who is going to be left? i'm not saying if there is some dude who like, got away with murder, or rape, that that person can't be blackballed from society. but our society is setting an unreasonable standard, blackballing people for stuff ordinary americans are doing every day. most of the interesting people in this world have done a number of stupid things; its often a matter of who got caught. i think we need to recognize how widely imperfect humans are and offer the same wide range of understanding and forgiveness to others, that we'd like to be treated with ourselves.
i don't want to make this a present-day thing, but i think the single most important area for this way of thinking is with politicans. the reason for that is, i don't want the couple hundred people who more or less set the rules for the rest of us, to be these boring *** church going dudes with well kept hair, who never took a risk, never got really close to dying or destroying their lives, and who won't sympathize with the imperfect among us. i have nothing against the pious; i just don't want them telling me how to live. i think we need an incredibly diverse group to represent us, both in terms of normal diversity stuff but also in terms of experiences. congress needs former gang bangers, former drunk drivers, former prositution seekers, gamblers, drug addicts, all of it. maybe some current ones, too. and besides, if you exclude those folks, you don't really end with a bunch of pious dudes - you end with a bunch of fakers who pretend to be all perfect and sit there judging us, while cheating on their wives and whatnot, and they frankly are the worst of the lot. **** those people.
stepping back a second, i do think the whole 'hey you are famous, you have to be perfect' thing comes down to the some role model for the kids stuff, but what is behind that? i think we try to sell kids on this delusion that the world is great and people are great, in the hopes they will buy it and be these great people. why do kids think their parents know everything, instead of being told something more along the lines of, hey most of us are idiots making this up as we go, so we are going to screw up a lot, sorry about that. if we could present a more nuanced view of reality, maybe we wouldn't need to demand our public figures put up an unrealistic public persona. maybe we could tolerate them putting up a persona that remotely resembles an actual person. maybe our kids would come to understand things like empathy and forgiveness on a more personal level, if we didn't spend so much time selling them some bullshit fantasy instead of telling them how things are. people aren't perfect, our kids aren't going to be perfect, and if we'd all accept that from the get-go instead of pressuring everyone to be some model citizen, this whole human experience might be a little bit easier for all of us.
i'll end this rant with a quote - "It has been my experience that folks who have no vices have very few virtues." - abe lincoln
9/29/2019 12:45 PM (edited)