agreed, this is expected, you lose about 2/3rds of effort that was done the day you walk in. this means that if a guy just has AP, you are probably fine, because you can still do the visits, and he'll already be unlocked. but players with significant visits, you are generally dead in the water (unless nobody else is interested, which would be a rather weird combo), because those visits are already 'consumed' (as in, you can't replace them with full-effort visits).